Recently, I began dismantling my social media life. Not my witchcraft social media life, but my “real life” social media life. I’ve juggled my “real life” and my “witchcraft life” for a long time, and frankly, I’ve spent too much time doing so.
The first casualty was Facebook. I still am on Facebook, but I’ve stopped following most all my “friends,” and only have a core of about 10 people who make it through the filter. I have, however, stopped posting altogether. I got tired of posting stuff that was currently topical, and having no responses at all. But post a picture of the cat, and people are falling all over themselves to “like” or comment. At this point I’m mostly using it as a news aggregator, a portal for witchcraft pages and groups, and seeing family posts. I realize that if people I know stumble on Pagan or Craft groups to which I belong, they will see my name, but I’ve completely stopped caring about that.
Yesterday’s social media casualty was my mundane Twitter account. Not my Craft Twitter, but my personal one. I kind of tried to morph my personal Twitter into my Craft Twitter, but I found myself so hesitant to post about witchcraft and other personal topics, it really handcuffed my posts. My witchcraft Twitter is actually more representative of who I am than my “personal” Twitter account. So instead of trying to maintain both, I opted for @barefootpagan.
Looking at this situation objectively is proves to be eye-opening. My life is a witchcraft life. For the longest time, I thought there were two aspects to my psyche, but there is no longer a dividing line. I’m simply a witch. It’s taken me 12 years to get to this realization, but there it is.
My witchcraft social media is my absolute freaking lifeline. I’ve mentioned a lot on Twitter about my depression, and communicating with other people who share my interests help keep me on an even keel. The positive posts from Pagans, witches, Wiccans, and others who are sensitive to these issues prove to be personally empowering and encouraging.
The question becomes this: Am I living in a fantasy land? Is it strange that I have limited interest in communicating with my non-witchcraft friends, and prefer communicating with people I’ve never personally met? Perhaps, but there’s real cerebral value in opening oneself up to others who totally get you.
There are some actions I need to take on a social level. I’ve never attended a designated Pagan event. This summer, I hope to find a few that I can attend to get my feet wet. I believe my wife will be open to it, as she has lots of fun in visiting all the Craft and New Age shops we encounter on vacations. The other day, she asked if she could have a particular stone to take to work to give her empowerment. She’ll end up Pagan yet…
I love being a Pagan and a witch. I’ve enjoyed it since 2004. There have been set-backs, friends lost, times of doubt, and some residual loneliness, but the benefits outweigh the negatives.
I would be absolutely more than interested in how other Pagans, witches, and Wiccans deal with all this! Do you feel you have two separate lives, or do you keep your witchcraft close to the vest? Or do you feel empowered or brave enough to let your Pagan flag fly? Has your path caused a chasm between you and your non-Pagan friends? How important is your Pagan social media to you? If you are so moved, please leave a comment. You might help me and others with your thoughts.
Thanks for reading, and Blessed Be!